Emotions : On Top of My Head...Answer Me Please...

Why am I writing this?


I take pleasure in observing people's emotions in a particular moment, event, ocassion, situation, time, and place. My eyes are kept glued at a sight that brings me interest and captures my interpretations of the "feelings at the moment". From it, I derive my own conclusions, concepts, analysis, and interpretations of a situation that cause a certain emotion ---- love, happiness, anger, etc..any emotion, for my own consumption. I get insights from it, still, for my own consumption. Take note, for my own consumption, and, believe you me? it helped me out to manage my own emotions.  Everytime I saw people deep in their "whatever" emotions, I mirror myself from them. 

From my personal experiences and observations, i learned that emotions can be dictated. It's up to you to decide what emotions you want to prevail in a situation. I call that "rational emotion" in a snap of a finger. Even in the verge of rage or happiness, one can choose how to react.  

Tapping the rational emotion side in us prevents us to uncontrollable anger, hate, obsession,and other extreme negative emotions.

Obsession. Let me share a personal experience of this feeling.

I was in my freshman in college. I had a roomate, let me call her "Sophie", who is very much my senior. She stood as our Ate among us in the room. It's the dormitory tradition that seniors will act as Big Sis to the newbees. As Ate, I looked up at her everytime I had personal concerns in school. Sophie has a fiance. Let me call him  "Noli". Also a senior. Normally, we call him Kuya too.  We, roomates, find their relationship very ideal. We expected their relationship for keeps. However,  without Sophie's knowledge, Noli is a married person. To make the story short, it reached to Sophie's awareness. Eventually, they parted ways, Noli, in the middle of the semester, stopped school. Sophie, on the other hand, stayed, but, worst thing happened. She attempted to end her life. Only she was rescued to the last minute. Her life became miserable . It drove her crazy. She was on her thesis writing when she quitted school, so misdirected, depressed, thinking it's the end of her world without Noli.

My remark : This is an extreme feeling of "love" to a person who cannot met a lover's expectation, instead, brought disaster to his lover's whole life. How does an emotional schema like this be managed? Personally, I too found it hard. I hadn't got into it.
What about you? If you are reading this, post your answer in the comment stream below this blog. thank you.

Rage and Hatred. Here is another extreme negative emotion.

For me anger is a normal feeling of annoyance to something against  our expectation. it would be healthy if managed well. But hatred? i don't find it healthy. It's so bad, bad, bad.

This person is good at heart, friendly, funny, considerate, responsible, approachable, and family oriented. But when angry caused by very very very minute things, he becomes furious, his nose fuming with rage, lambasts, cursed friends, and becomes unreasonable. He'd plant animosity to other people close to his (considered) foes. He would ostracize himself from others, he shuns healthy conversation. Most people find him negative. This feeling would even last for more or less 5 years. 

My remark :  I find this emotion unhealthy. A person with this emotion has a very small Circle of Influence, that of Stephen Covey's. Please post your answer in the comment stream below my blog. What's wrong with with the emotion? Thank you if you can enlighten me. 

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February is fast approaching. It's a love month, so they say. Honestly, I don't know the story why February is when people most celebrate this wonderful feeling called "love".  Neither do I know where cupid came from, his race, his beginnings, his everything. As far as I know he brings an arrow that carries a magic feeling when one's  hit. With this story, I find Cupid a lil bit naughty. His naughtiness brings people to be  "crazy love" out of nowhere which sometimes ends to blag, blag, blag.....tag, tag, tag, tag...kablagghhh!!!!..

To all my friends...."love... love... love..."  even beyond Valentine's season...smile;)













   
















 

...amazing sun...

January 24, Tuesday, Today. I woke up at exactly 5:45 in the morning to do my morning routine -- 30 minutes exercise. Everyone in the household is still asleep. I still heard the chirping of the wild birds and the crickets. When 30 minute workout is up, i took my coffee with pandesal (not hot). That's my usual morning routine. While waiting for everybody to get up, that's about 5:45 AM, i opened the windows to invite the sunrise in.  Amazing! i saw the sun slowly rising, though lil bit peeping behind the white clouds. The morning is so still and calm. Very refreshing! It took me almost 10 minutes to watch the sunrise. What a magnificent creation! It's a very beautiful morning today, wonderful!  My sight of the sunrise brought me back to my core which for three months or so I hadn't done, maybe because I was busy with the past months. It's good always to go to the basic --- dip into the deepest core in us and say "Lord Thank You". 

Exactly 6:00AM. I saw Rob slowly went down the stairs and say,"hi guys, goo morning" (without a d).  That's his greetings in the house upon waking up. I took him outside the house to let him see the sunrise.  Later, the house became busy for the morning household schedules. Breakfast is ready!!!!!

In the office today. Before anyhting else, I write my reflection to express my thought this morning...

A Heart of Thankfulness

(from the book "Simple Living for Busy People) 

In ordinary life we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more than we give, and that is only with gratitude that life becomes rich.

Have you ever wondered why God says it's so important to be grateful for what you have? One of the reasons is that a greatful heart can help you better  appreciate the simple joys and blessings in life.

A greatful heart helps you to see how rich you are in the things that matter, freeing you from the endless politics of acquisition and status. A greatful heart keeps you from chasing after the illusion of success and teaches you to be content in the plan  God has for you. It is content to be still and listen.

In the book of Luke, the story is told of 10 lepers who came to Jesus for healing. Jesus sent them on their way saying they would be cleansed and held as they went. This they all did --- except one. That leper stopped when he realized that he had been healed and ran back to Jesus, thanking and praising him.The others received their healing, but nothing more. The leperwho went back to show his gratitude went away with faith in the Son of God and the promise of more blessings to come.

Take time each day to thank God for the blessings he pours out on your life. Tell Him why you're grateful and what the specific blessing has done for you. Also take timeeach day tosay thank you to the faithful people God has placed in your life  --- the people who love you, inspire you, and make your life better. Thank them in person or in writing. And then practice your gratefulness on strangers. Tell the waitress how grateful you are for a car that runs well.

No matter how busy you are, always take time to  say thank you.  Incorporate it into your lifestyle. Soon you will find that there is less time for complaining and competing and working to get ahead and more time for reaping God's simple blessings.

"Developing a grateful heart will help you focus on the simple blessings and joys that grace yourlife"

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I came to this reflection today because I've done amazing this weekend that's worth a handful of thanks...until I saw the sunrise this morning I realized 'twas worth it...

Good Morning!!!



...it's my papa's birthday...remembering him...

                To my papa....  this is my tribute to you.....



A dog is his favorite pet

I can't wait to write a short tribute about my late father.

Tomorrow's his 74th birthday supposedly.

His full name is Eulogio G. Yordan.

He is fondly called as "leo" to friends and relatives.

He is "iti" to his late father and mother.

I just feel sorry I got no picture of his.

But most people say I'm his look-a-like.

Only I got my gender from my mother.

-0-

Papa was altogether a friend to everybody.

Generous of his time, resources, and presence.

Patient, industrious, and fearless.

Ever composed amidst troubles and confusion.

Determined, firm, affectionate in a very silent way.

Intelligent, good provider, planner, and implementer.

-0-

He is a Santa Claus to kids.

A brother to the needy.

An adviser to those who seeks superior thoughts.

A comedian and a critic in our family.

A great fan of  Elvis Presley.

Above all a great father to me.

-0-

                                               

'Birthday Greetings to a Kuya"

Carl Fonzy is his real name

With chinky eye and curly hair

So chubby at his age

But friendly and admirable

He is fondly called as Fonzy

A big Kuya to Rob

Can teach songs, poems, and dance

And play anything under the sun

More than a Kuya but a friend to Rob

Day and night they played a lot

They both eat anything yummy

It shows in their big tummies 

Today is his 10th birthday

Already grown up

Had a crush on beautiful young ladies

Am I right Kuya Fonzy?

Robin called him "Kaya Fonzzy"

Can't exactlly say the "u"

But Rob  can fully say, "Kaya Fonzy I Love U"

Yeey, Bravooo

Happy Birthday Fonzy

 

 

Life Thoughts

"Observing children can help you learn more important lessons that will inspire you to get back to basics".  This is a quotation from the book, Simple Living for Busy People, which i bought, leisurely, at SM North Edsa sometime in 2007.

From these pictures, i've drawned simple lessons in life.  

...smile...smile...smile...

'Life lived amidst tension and busyness needs leisure.
Leisure that re-creates and renews.
                                                 - Neil C. Strait -

o0o

...sharing secrets with loved ones and friends is catharsis...

"How good and how pleasant it is for brethren
to dwell together in unity"
                                              - Psalm 133:1 KJV -

o0o

...friends indeed!...

"Solid friendships bring balance and other
important resources to your life"

o0o

...say, cheeze...

"Rest renews and restores your body, soul, and spirit.

o0o 

...happy children of God...

"If someone does not know how to manage his
own household, how can he take care of
God's church?"
                                  - 1 Timothy 3:5 NRSV -

o0o

...Yeheyyy..I got it!...

"True success means fulfilling
the purpose for which you were created"

o0o

...no no no no ...

"Every time you make a choice you are turning
the central part of you that chooses into something
a little different from what it was before"
                                                      - C.S. Lewis -

o0o

...when you do things and no one appreciates? it doesn't matter...

" Humility will relieve you of the obligation
to promote your own self interests,
thereby eliminating the need
to strive to prove yourself to others"

o0o



...even with loved ones, friends,and other people, we can be on our own...

"One always has time enough if one will apply it"
                                                   - Johan Wolfgang von Goethe -

o0o

"simple thoughts, simple life, don't complicate life"

                                                       - jojo y. -




Boys' Tale: A Crime That Never Was

The story teller in me rekindled with these four boys in the picture. But my story would focus on the two younger ones. This happened in the Christmas Eve of 2011 in the house of my cousin in Punta Bilar, Surigao City.  Before proceeding, let me introduce them.

The oldest among the four is Kuya Fonzy.  He is the eldest son of my nephew. He is 9 years old then. Playful, cool, and emotionally intelligent. Can easily play about with other kids. He is nice and keen observant. He can understand the language of my son. Very adaptable.








The second Kuya is Choy2x, wearing green tee. Fifth son of my cousin. I find this boy composed and a bit shy. Loves to be in the background, most often. Cool dude too! Unruffled yet engaging in a conversation.  Playful in such a relaxed mood. Kuya Choy is fondly called, "Tibor" in the family because he's his grandpa's grandson.

The third Kuya is Sean. Only son of my cousin who's based in Canada. Sean is in prep school. Very reasonable kid and doesn't miss to answer questions. Smart, witty, and goodlooking. Bit funny and entertaining. He calls Rob-rob as Wab-wab when he's just three. He can't say the"Er" sound. 

Generally, these three guys all love kids. They're not quarrelsome to younger children. That's why they can gel with my only son Robin even if they rarely hang-out with each other,only in special events like this-- Christmas.
                                  

I shouldn't miss to introduce the youngest guy in the picture, no other than my only son Robin.  He loves to play 24-hours a day. With high energy no one can beat. Easily sweat-out even the room aircon is in full blast. He's not a cry baby. At play, his laughter reverberates the entire play station. He' friendly, cheerful, flexible, and sharp. 


Like what i've said, my story will center on the 2 younger boys. It will be told thru pictures with light conversations...The story goes this way....





Two days before Dec.25, I bought 3 packs of candy, sort of, called "Jelly Ace". Secretly i kept it under the bed, that in the picture. I wrapped it in a box to give it to the kids, they were 8 in the house that time, as give-aways on the eve of christmas. In the afternoon of the 24th at around 2pm, I went inside the room to nap. I had slept for about 30minutes then when i heard the two boys, Sean and Rob, entered the room.  My sleep that hour was not as deep as I used to, seemingly I heard the two whispering. I didn't bother to open my eyes thinking they're just playing a toy that doesn't squeak. They're so silent that I almost didn't hear a sound. I wondered what's happening. I slowly opened my eyes cautiously for them to be unaware I was awoke. To my surprise, i saw Sean carefully opened the candy box while Robin watching. Every now and then Sean would tell Rob, "Sshhhh", because the latter excitedly grabbed the box with the desire to eat the candies. Sean as the older one, divided the candies equally. All the 3 packs!! Consumed...Instead of getting  mad, I slowly took my camera I hid under my pillow and took shots of the two.

To continue the story...i urge you to interpret it.......

...when they started to gobble up, Sean would gave a glance to my bed located in front of them...



...yum yum...delisioso...

...Rob had a hard time opening the candy...

...both glancing at me once in a while...this time i wrapped myself with a blanket so they can't notice...

....Sean's  already up, tried to ask Rob who is adamant...Sean went :grrr,grrr"....

...somebody got in the room, sorry...the two locked it up...wise boys, they know their crime....

...glancing at me again...

...seemingly took notice of me because i was tickled watching them...look at Rob's facial expression,
he really thought I saw them... 

...suspicious look ...Sean's busy eating...

...another suspicious glance...Rob's eating passionately...

...rob all alone still eating the last jelly ace...Sean's already nowhere to go...

     End of the Story....

Looking Through My Lil One

 

Observing Robin growing up is a mixture of awe-inspiring and fascinating event in my whole life. My feeling was  like a girl who is head-over-heels in love for the very first time with a very good looking prince who reciprocates the same feeling.  Everyday is exciting, every moment memorable. It should be captured!

Let me bring you to the different phases of Robin's growing up for three years....

 

Barely 8 months.... 

 

 

At 8 months, while I'm at work, lola was Rob's "greatest partner", attending and loooking after him while yaya does the household chores and prepares milk for Rob...

 

 

...birthday greeting to a friend...

The Birthday Girl...

2010 marked my close friendship with her

all started with lunchbreaks

exchanging pleasantries

sharing political views

buzzing showbiz

imparting workplace whatnots...

the least i can hear was whining and

carping domestic circumstances

with my other friend's company

she's learned to banter

at times outsmart us all and

leave me agape for getting us better off

what a fast learner she is!!

unconsciously she has funny sides

when asked?

she gives you an answer least you expect

when appreciated?

she gives you a lengthy explanation to why and what

and that makes her tic

she has a good heart

but has a woman's wrath 

she has a first-rate taste for household stuff

a good worker beyond compare

the reason why we gel

 

with her company

the day is

...entertaining

... funny

...confusing because everybody talks in unison

... serious in "whispering moments"....ssshhhh

 

in the face of opposition

she looks straight her way

seems oblivious of them

zoom!!! marivel ciocon out her way...

 

i like her because...

...never hear her badmouth

... condones falling out friends

and most of all

... never gets into personal lives

 

 

Happy birthday ms. marivel ciocon;)

 

                                                                   from jojo y.

 

 

 

 

 

2012 beginnings

Again, i am contemplating of a new domestic project. One not-so-big room but with a comfort room and an extended kitchen. Presently, my house has an all-around space for living-dining area which i find it a limited space for Robin to run to and fro. It would be another exciting-challenging one for me as i open 2012.  I commisioned my officemate engineer to estimate how much should be spent for this project. I always pray I can  make it again this year. Hopefully,...............

I want 2012 commence with a big BANG!!!! in my workplace...new and challenging work assignments, good vibes, positive energy, pleasant work environment, friends with an all through out happy faces ;), positive thoughts...hmmm. 

Personally, i want:  pink of health, religiously stick to my exercise regimen with my good friend Mavel, hi mavel!, follow the proper diet, i'm gaining weight recently, go to my friend doctor regularly for my regular check-up, sleep tight which i always do!!!, always  emit positive energy.

All these starts from within. 

An experience with Alzheimer's

I read a lot about this disease decade ago, Alzheimer's disease, primarily to educate myself and be aware of its signs and basically know how to prevent it. So much concern of my mental health as aging is inevitable. Without my knowledge my mother has this mental illness.

Nanay is going on 74 by March 28.  At her age, she is still in pink of health with strong bones and evenly aligned strong teeth. She can still stride, that's her morning rotuine, along the street near our house. By nature she is a homebody, orderly and organized, industriouos, generous especially to the needy and downtrodden. Very loving, caring, and understanding woman but strict and disciplinarian that she's most often prone  to be misundertood. Nanay is my greatest critic and fan. My very good and best friend more than anybody else. She knows my secret both personal and work affairs. 

 

Two years ago today, I had this bad feelings towards her imbalanced temper and moodswings.  It seemed she was not the Nanay i knew. Most often she blurted the househelper without valid reason. Sometimes she engaged in a "tug-of-war" with my son Robin. She became my stressor at home. Unreasonable she became that i almost lost my temper. She's so persistent even to unworthy things like trudging the streets more or less 50 meters away from our abode rain or shine daily for eight hours. Just imagine. It went on for barely two years. 

 

One day, i found her hardly speak her thoughts and respond to my conversations.  She has difficulty communicating in the house, if she does,  mostly yelling and throwing objects. Good...nobody's hit. I begun to suspect she has this mental illness of Alzheimer's.

I took her to our family doctor to undergo a cognitive evaluation. She was on the threshold of Alzheimer's. Immediately she was prescribed with a medicine that prevents the disease to progress rapidly. A lifetime maintenance. Definitely, cannot cure the illness. I've made that adjustments with Nanay for barely two years.

Today she's still the same. Nothing's changed and improved. Her doctor said, she'll never be well  but one day worsens, at least slowly. Inspite of that, I still love her unconditionally. She's like my son's younger sibling.

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Nanay & Rob: Best of friends;)



My day makes me with Robin and my mother. When Nanay's older sister and younger brother are a bit worried with her (Nanay), I am not. She's well under my care. But one day, she'll have a yaya of her own too. I can still see her flush a smile when in good mood or give a frown when in bad.

 

My personal experience with Alzheimer's provided me a concrete idea of the illness. Personally, i don't consider it a dreadful disease with appropriate information and get educated about it, regular visit with the doctor for a brain-memory assessment, and keep your brain busy. Don't panic, stay cool.<><> <><> <><>

She doesn't look she got an Alzheimer's. With Rob and Bettymae



 

I have but one realization with old age : There'll come a time that sons and daughters become parents to their parents. So, kids love your parents..

 



 

 

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