Emotions : On Top of My Head...Answer Me Please...

Why am I writing this?


I take pleasure in observing people's emotions in a particular moment, event, ocassion, situation, time, and place. My eyes are kept glued at a sight that brings me interest and captures my interpretations of the "feelings at the moment". From it, I derive my own conclusions, concepts, analysis, and interpretations of a situation that cause a certain emotion ---- love, happiness, anger, etc..any emotion, for my own consumption. I get insights from it, still, for my own consumption. Take note, for my own consumption, and, believe you me? it helped me out to manage my own emotions.  Everytime I saw people deep in their "whatever" emotions, I mirror myself from them. 

From my personal experiences and observations, i learned that emotions can be dictated. It's up to you to decide what emotions you want to prevail in a situation. I call that "rational emotion" in a snap of a finger. Even in the verge of rage or happiness, one can choose how to react.  

Tapping the rational emotion side in us prevents us to uncontrollable anger, hate, obsession,and other extreme negative emotions.

Obsession. Let me share a personal experience of this feeling.

I was in my freshman in college. I had a roomate, let me call her "Sophie", who is very much my senior. She stood as our Ate among us in the room. It's the dormitory tradition that seniors will act as Big Sis to the newbees. As Ate, I looked up at her everytime I had personal concerns in school. Sophie has a fiance. Let me call him  "Noli". Also a senior. Normally, we call him Kuya too.  We, roomates, find their relationship very ideal. We expected their relationship for keeps. However,  without Sophie's knowledge, Noli is a married person. To make the story short, it reached to Sophie's awareness. Eventually, they parted ways, Noli, in the middle of the semester, stopped school. Sophie, on the other hand, stayed, but, worst thing happened. She attempted to end her life. Only she was rescued to the last minute. Her life became miserable . It drove her crazy. She was on her thesis writing when she quitted school, so misdirected, depressed, thinking it's the end of her world without Noli.

My remark : This is an extreme feeling of "love" to a person who cannot met a lover's expectation, instead, brought disaster to his lover's whole life. How does an emotional schema like this be managed? Personally, I too found it hard. I hadn't got into it.
What about you? If you are reading this, post your answer in the comment stream below this blog. thank you.

Rage and Hatred. Here is another extreme negative emotion.

For me anger is a normal feeling of annoyance to something against  our expectation. it would be healthy if managed well. But hatred? i don't find it healthy. It's so bad, bad, bad.

This person is good at heart, friendly, funny, considerate, responsible, approachable, and family oriented. But when angry caused by very very very minute things, he becomes furious, his nose fuming with rage, lambasts, cursed friends, and becomes unreasonable. He'd plant animosity to other people close to his (considered) foes. He would ostracize himself from others, he shuns healthy conversation. Most people find him negative. This feeling would even last for more or less 5 years. 

My remark :  I find this emotion unhealthy. A person with this emotion has a very small Circle of Influence, that of Stephen Covey's. Please post your answer in the comment stream below my blog. What's wrong with with the emotion? Thank you if you can enlighten me. 

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February is fast approaching. It's a love month, so they say. Honestly, I don't know the story why February is when people most celebrate this wonderful feeling called "love".  Neither do I know where cupid came from, his race, his beginnings, his everything. As far as I know he brings an arrow that carries a magic feeling when one's  hit. With this story, I find Cupid a lil bit naughty. His naughtiness brings people to be  "crazy love" out of nowhere which sometimes ends to blag, blag, blag.....tag, tag, tag, tag...kablagghhh!!!!..

To all my friends...."love... love... love..."  even beyond Valentine's season...smile;)